Do you have a lot of sex in bed?
Would you like to enjoy your private time without worrying about a sagging mattress, stains on the bed or a loud squeaky bed frame?
You’ve come to the right place.
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It's fun to change where you have sex every now and then – trust me, I've tried several interesting places.
But most people and couples have most of their sex on the bed. It may not be the most adventurous place, but it's comfortable, practical and private.
That said, your bed can put a damper on your romps.
An unsupportive mattress or a bed frame or futon bed that squeaks with every movement can ruin your intimate moments.
In this intimate guide for sexually active folks, I discuss the most common bed & bedroom related problems for people who have a lot of sex.
I also suggest solutions and products to make sex in bed more comfortable and fun. We cover a wide range of solutions – from bst-selling/top-rated products to good, practical advice.
So let's get on with it 😉
Common Issues For People Who Have A Lot Of Sex In Bed
Your Mattress Feels Like Quicksand
Your soft mattress may be amazing for a good night's sleep, but less than ideal for frisky moments.
A too-soft soft mattress takes a lot of fun out of sex, and makes it a lot more tiresome. It doesn't provide adequate resistance, which makes positioning and movements a problem.
You'll often find yourself sinking too deep into the mattress. Instead of enjoying the moment, I've often found myself fighting against getting sucked into the mattress.
I've found a couple of solutions that have improved my mattress support during sex. I've used a mattress topper to firm up the mattress. I've also tried sleeping – and having sex – on a firmer and more supportive mattress.
If you are not ready to get a new mattress, get a mattress topper to improve your control. I recommend the PlushBeds 100% Natural Latex Topper. It's organic, supportive and responsive (more on that next).
If you'd rather replace your mattress, I recommend the Saatva Classic. Being a hybrid mattress, it combines the right level of coil support with foam responsiveness for the best results when you get frisky.
Your Mattress Works Against You
A non-responsive mattress can also make sex more tedious and less fun.
When a mattress has the right level of bounce or responsiveness, it supports your movements (especially repetitive movements) and helps you engage with less energy. You’ll find you have energy to keep going and going.
Mattresses with springs inside provide the best bounce. That’s why my favorite mattress for sex is the hybrid Saatva Classic mattress.
A natural latex mattress also provides the right amount of bounce. Much better than a memory foam bed.
If you are not ready to buy a new mattress, we recommend getting a mattress topper that makes your bed firmer and bouncier. My top pick is the PlushBeds 100% Natural Latex Topper.
Your Bed Turns Into A Sauna - and Not The Fun Kind
Sex already makes you hot and sweaty. The last thing you want is a mattress that makes you even hotter.
This is a common problem if you have a memory foam bed. Memory foam has poor breathability. It absorbs body heat and traps it, making the occupants hot and sweaty.
If you have sex a lot in bed, even a memory foam mattress with cooling gel, infused copper or one of the fancy cooling techniques in mattresses today may not be enough to keep you cool.
I recommend upgrading to a natural or organic latex mattress like the PlushBeds Botanical Bliss Organic Latex Mattress. Latex foam is inherently cooler and provides the bounce you need, as we discussed.
If that’s out of your budget, hybrid coil+foam mattresses like the Saatva Classic have excellent cooling performance and they are cheaper.
An even cheaper option is a cooling mattress topper. Latex mattress toppers and bamboo mattress pads and toppers can help keep your bed cool during and after sex.
Our favorite latex topper is the PlushBeds 100% Natural Latex Topper and our bamboo topper top pick is the Cheer Collection Soft and Plush Bamboo mattress topper.
If you get really hot during sex, you can also try an active/powered bed cooling system like the ChiliSleep Dock Pro. The DockPro cools you down via a system of microtubes filled with cool running water contained in a soft mattress topper. Water-cooled systems are the best at removing heat.
Squeaky/Noisy Mattress or Bed Frame
I’ve experienced this one and it’s embarrassing. It sounds like the whole neighborhood can hear your business.
Even if you live alone, a bed that squeaks with every movement can be annoying. It’s more embarrassing if there are other people in the house.
And because you have sex often on the bed, the noise is likely to get louder. Your bed may also get wobbly.
The first step is to figure out whether it’s the mattress or the bed frame making the noise.
If you have an innerspring mattress that’s several years old, then it’s likely your springs are the culprit.
To test for this, pull your mattress off of the foundation and place it on the floor to see if it still squeaks. If it does, the only option is to replace it with a new mattress. Hybrid mattresses like Saatva Classic offer the same responsiveness without being squeaky because they wrap the coils in individual pockets and surround them in layers of foam.
If you have a foam, latex or hybrid mattress, then the noise is likely coming from your bed frame.
Tighten down nuts and see if the noise goes away. If it doesn’t, upgrade to a sturdy and noise-free bed frame. I recommend the super-affordable and strong 45MinST 14 Inch reinforced bed frame, available on Amazon.
A Flat Bed Can Get Boring
You can be as creative as you want, but a bed just doesn't allow a wide range of sex positions.
If you want to expand your repertoire of sex positions without leaving the bed, we recommend getting a sex pillow. Our top pick is the Liberator Wedge & Ramp Sex Positioning Pillow.
It not only allows more positions, it also makes sex more comfortable since it offers better support.
If you to go even further, get a sex chair like the Avana Sleek Chaise Lounge and put it next to the bed. It lets you enjoy a lot more variety without leaving the bedroom.
Stains and Smells On Mattress & Bedding
Sex is naturally messy. Frequent sex on the bed will inevitably cause stains on the mattress and bedding. Mattress stains are the worst since it’s hard to clean them off.
You may also notice that your mattress smells funky. This happens as the mattress absorbs your body and sweat smells and fluids leak into the foam.
Stains and smells on your bed are not only bad for bedroom ambience, they can also be unhygienic.
The best solution is a mattress protector like the PlushDeluxe Premium bamboo mattress protector.
If you also want to protect your sheets and duvet, get a waterproof blanket like the Avana Waterproof Throw Blanket. It’s great for couples who enjoy extra-messy sex.
I wish I knew about using a waterproof blanket earlier. It would have saved me a lot of hassle changing sheets after each fun session. It’s easier to just remove the waterproof blanket and put it in the washer.
Sex In This Cold? Oh, Hell No
Sometimes the weather can get so chilly that you can’t take off even one sock, let alone all your clothes.
Very hot weather is no less uncomfortable. The heat can leave you feeling too sweaty and the bedroom too stuffy to have sex.
You can certainly turn the thermostat up and down. But if you want to save power, consider a portable heating and cooling air conditioner just for your bedroom.
A portable AC with heat is easy to set up and you can keep the bedroom at the perfect temperature for sex any time of the year.
The BLACK+DECKER 14,000 BTU portable AC is ideal for bedrooms up to 350 square feet. Get the smaller 8,000 BTU unit if you have a small bedroom that’s under 150 sq. ft.
Another solution that uses even less power is a bed heating and cooling system like the ChiliSleep Dock Pro.
Where To Store Intimate Products *So The Kids Don’t Find Them
You likely have several intimate products that you don't want anyone else to see. They can be toys, lube, condoms and so on.
If you have kids, you know they can be sneaky and it’s hard to hide stuff from them. Other people in the house can also come snooping around in your absence.
If you have a lockable drawer in your nightstand or closet, put your stuff there. If not, I recommend adding a lock to your bedside drawer.
I prefer a keyless lock like the CODACE Electronic Fingerprint Lock. It saves you the hassle of carrying around yet another key.
How To Cool Down Without Leaving The Room
After all the sweat and heat, nothing feels better than a glass of cold water or your favorite drink.
Unless you always remember to set out some cold drinks on the nightstand before sex (which I doubt many people do), that’s the worst time to walk to the kitchen for a drink. I often just want to lay back and relax.
Consider getting a small beverage cooler and putting it by your bedside. You can keep your preferred beverages chilled right in the bedroom and enjoy them before, during and after sex.
My favorite beverage cooler is the Antarctic Star Beverage Refrigerator.
Top 10 Bedroom Products For People Who Have A Lot Of Sex
- 1. Best Mattress For Sex: Saatva Classic Mattress
- 2. Best Bed Frame for Sex: 45MinST 14 Inch Reinforced Platform Bed Frame
- 3. Best Mattress Topper For Sex: PlushBeds 100% Natural Latex Topper
- 4. Best Mattress Protector: PlushDeluxe Premium Bamboo Mattress Protector
- 5. Best Waterproof Blanket: Avana Waterproof Throw Blanket
- 6. Best Sex Positioning Pillow: Liberator Wedge & Ramp Sex Positioning Pillow
- 7. Best Bed Heating & Cooling System: ChiliSleep Dock Pro™ Sleep System
- 8. Best Keyless Drawer Lock: CODACE Electronic Fingerprint Lock
- 9. Best Bedside Beverage Cooler: Antarctic Star Beverage Refrigerator
- 10. Best Sex Chaise Chair: Avana Sleek Chaise Lounge
Hybrid mattresses are some of the best mattresses for sex. They are bouncy, they have great support, and they stay cool.
The Saatva Classic is one of the most popular and highest rated hybrid mattresses online. We especially love its dual coil design that delivers even more support and responsiveness.
PROS
- Highly responsive
- Plenty of support even for heavy sleepers
- Great cooling performance
- Free delivery and setup
CONS
- Doesn't offer as much pressure relief as a memory foam mattress - could be uncomfortable for side sleeping
Our Review
The Saatva Classic is a beast of a mattress. It’s thick and heavy.
That’s because of how it’s constructed.
The top layer is a 3” Euro pillow top for pressure relief, then a memory foam layer for added contouring. The core and base of the mattress has two levels of coils.
The first level has responsive pocket coils that contour the mattress to your body curves and angles. The second, which is at the bottom of the mattress, consists of tempered steel coils for support and durability.
On top of that, the Saatva Classic has high-density foam rails along the sides to boost edge support.
The mattress is heavy for good reason.
In terms of comfort, the Saatva Classic is available in plush soft, luxury firm, and firm options. The plush soft and luxury firm are the two best options for most sleepers.
But all comfort options are great for sex: they have great support, zero squeaking, and lots of bounce. Even the plush soft doesn't feel overly soft.
As for cooling, the two coil layers maintain breathability, so the mattress never feels hot or stuffy. The organic cotton cover also helps keep the bed cool and it also wicks away sweat.
One thing you’ll love about the Saatva Classic is the edge to edge support, thanks to the foam rails. You can take advantage of every inch on the mattress.
Saatva ships the Classic mattress at no cost and even includes free in-room setup and old mattress/foundation removal. You can return the mattress within the 365-night trial period. If you like the mattress and decide to keep it, it comes with a lifetime warranty.
Issues & Limitations
If you are shopping for a plush mattress with exceptional pressure relief, the Saatva Classic is not it.
Many customers say the mattress was a bit firmer than they anticipated. Even the plush soft is somewhat firm.
This is mostly an issue for side sleepers. If you still want the benefits of the Saatva Classic mattress, you may need to add a soft mattress topper or pad on top to improve pressure relief.
If it feels like your bed frame is about to break from all your activities, or if it squeaks embarrassingly, get the 45MinST 14 inch reinforced platform bed frame.
It’s a heavy duty metal bed frame with zero noise.
PROS
- High capacity - great for all body sizes
- Comes with slats - no box spring required
- Silent and shake-free
- Easy to assemble
- Lots of underbed storage space
CONS
- Slats are too far apart for certain mattresses
Our Review
The 45MinST bed frame is built like a tank, and feels just as sturdy.
It has an all-metal construction. Solid steel components and reinforced legs ensure the bed can handle anything.
This includes the combined weight of a couple plus the mattress. The total weight capacity is 3,500lbs. So even heavier couples will find the bed frame to be more than enough for their needs.
The reinforced leg structure eliminates squeaking, shaking and wobbling especially during sex.
The metal slats are set securely in individual brackets, and are set 1.4 inches below the side rails. This leaves a lip all around the bed frame that keeps your mattress from sliding, a common problem with many bed frames.
The 45MinST bed frame is easy to assemble and all the tools you need are included.
Once assembled, it stands 14 inches high. This leaves plenty of underbed storage space.
The 45MinST bed frame doesn't come with a headboard, but there are holes on the legs to attach any headboard you want.
Issues & Limitations
The 45MinST bed frame has a couple of issues.
One, the slats are too far apart for some mattresses, mostly foam mattresses. Your mattress will sink between the gaps, reducing support and mattress longevity.
If you have a foam mattress, we recommend placing a ¼ inch bunkie board on top of the slats for improved support.
The other issue is the legs; you can easily stub and break your toe on them. Find something soft to wrap the legs in to prevent painful accidents.
If you are not ready to get a new mattress that’s better for sex, you can try a mattress topper instead. The PlushBeds 100% natural latex topper is one of the best mattress toppers for sex.
It is responsive, supportive, and highly breathable. It’s also nice to have sex on a natural chemical-free surface.
PROS
- 100% natural
- Available in five firmness levels and two thickness options
- Adds responsiveness to your mattress
- Cool & breathable
CONS
- Costs more than other types of mattress toppers
Our Review
If your mattress is not too bad, the PlushBeds natural latex mattress topper might be enough to make it a great mattress for sex.
Memory foam mattress toppers are more popular (they are also cheaper), but they are not ideal for sex. Memory foam doesn't offer enough pushback and has very little bounce. It can also feel hot and stuffy.
Natural latex, on the other hand, is naturally cool, has excellent responsiveness, and adds support to a too-soft mattress.
The PlushBeds latex topper is available in five firmness options. We recommend the medium or medium firm if your mattress feels too soft.
If your mattress is too hard and hurts your back and other pressure points during sex, get the medium soft or soft if you are a side sleeper.
Even the soft options still feel bouncy, so they should be good to move around on.
Issues & Limitations
If you are shopping for a budget mattress topper, the PlushBeds natural latex topper may not be what you are looking for.
Try the cheaper Pure Green Natural Latex Mattress Topper instead.
A mattress protector is one of the first things on this list you should get. It not only protects your mattress, it also keeps your bed more hygienic and healthier for you.
Our top pick is the PlushDeluxe Premium Bamboo Mattress Protector. It is functional as well as comfortable.
PROS
- Waterproof protection
- Noiseless
- Breathable - doesn't make the bed hot
- Soft comfortable surface
CONS
- Side panels are not waterproof
Our Review
The PlushDeluxe bamboo mattress protector stops any fluid from passing through whether it’s bodily fluids, water, wine, lube or oils.
It’ll keep your mattress from moisture damage, embarrassing stains and funky smells.
It also keeps out dust mites, pet hair, and other allergens, making the bed healthier for those with allergies and respiratory problems.
The top cover is 100% waterproof. But it doesn't look like those traditional plasticky mattress protectors.
It’s soft and plush on top. This makes it more comfortable and eliminates the crinkly noises you get from cheap mattress protectors.
The bamboo fabric is highly breathable, so the PlushDeluxe mattress protector will not make your mattress hot.
Issues & Limitations
Only the top of the mattress protector is waterproof. The parts that goes on the sides of the mattress are not waterproof.
So be careful not to get any fluids on the sides of the mattress.
In addition to a mattress protector, we recommend getting a waterproof blanket to keep fluids and stains out of your bedding.
The Avana Waterproof Throw Blanket is soft to the touch and 100% waterproof.
PROS
- Waterproof on both sides
- Soft outer surface
- Versatile - suitable for the bed, couch and any other surface
- Machine washable
CONS
- It doesn't absorb fluids
Our Review
If your fun sessions tend to be wetter than average, we highly recommend the Avana waterproof throw blanket.
It saves you the hassle of having to change your bedding or placing layers of towels on the bed.
The Avana blanket is completely waterproof on both sides. So you can use either side.
It has a soft velvety surface, so it feels comfortable against the sink. It also doesn't make any crinkle noises.
The Avana blanket is available in three sizes: regular (72” x 54”), king (80” x 76”) and travel size (53” x 36”).
You can also choose from several color options.
The blanket is machine washable, so it’s easy to keep it clean.
Issues & Limitations
The waterproof protection on the Avana blanket works by repelling liquids on it. If there’s a big spill on it, the liquid will pool on the blanket and can even run off onto the bed or floor.
If you want a waterproof blanket that’s also absorbent, get the TOP 100% Waterproof Blanket.
The Liberator Wedge & Ramp pillow is a bit pricey for just a couple of wedge pillows. But they introduce you to a lot more sex positions than you knew existed.
A majority of the customers say the money they spent was worth it for their improved sex life.
PROS
- Improve support and comfort during sex
- Allow a variety of sex positions
- Moisture resistant cover
- Removable and washable cover
CONS
- It’s difficult to find a discreet place to store it
Our Review
The wedge and ramp combo is an ingenious design and works better than a wedge pillow on its own.
It allows more positions and improves support and comfort. By taking pressure off your back, hips and knees, you can maintain the same position for longer without getting tired or uncomfortable.
The exterior cover is soft and has a moisture resistant lining on the inside. This keeps any fluids from reaching the foam.
That said, if your intimate moments involve a lot more fluids, consider placing a waterproof cover or blanket on it for added protection.
The cover on the Liberator Wedge & Ramp is removable and machine washable, so it’s easy to keep it clean and hygienic.
Issues & Limitations
The Liberator Wedge & Ramp sex pillow is big. It’s difficult to find a proper place to store it out of sight. You can put it in the closet but it takes up a lot of space.
If your mattress feels too hot and makes you uncomfortable during sex, we recommend the ChiliSleep Dock Pro.
It’s also the best solution for those colder months when it’s too cold for sex.
PROS
- Powerful cooling and heating
- Also great for hot or cold sleepers
- Quiet
- Comfortable mattress pad
CONS
- WiFi remote control is buggy
Our Review
The ChiliSleep Dock Pro is the latest bed cooling system from ChiliSleep. It’s also one of the most powerful bed cooling systems in the market.
It uses water to cool your bed. A pad containing tiny channels connects to the main unit that cools and pumps the water.
You select the temperature you want (via an app or buttons on the main unit) and the ChiliPad cools you within minutes.
If your bed traps a lot of heat and makes you sweaty during sex, the Dock Pro is the best solution. It’ll stay cool no matter how hot you get.
It’s also a great way to stay warm during colder months. You can have as much sex as you want without freezing your body parts. The mattress pad can go all the way up to 115 degrees.
Issues & Limitations
The WiFi app you use to control the Dock Pro is still buggy and may not work well all the time. But you can still use the physical buttons on the control unit.
You can install the CODACE fingerprint lock on any drawer, closet door, cabinet, or storage box. It’s a great way to secure any compartment that doesn't have a lock.
PROS
- Keyless - works via fingerprint
- Includes a decoder to reset the system
- Quick unlock
- Long lasting battery with easily accessible charging port
CONS
- No installation instructions
Our Review
The CODACE fingerprint lock is not meant for high security applications. It’s more of a low to medium security lock to discourage kids and other people from snooping where they shouldn’t.
It’s perfect for locking away toys, lube and any other intimate products you want to keep close to the bed but out of sight.
You’ll need to drill small holes to install the lock.
The fingerprint recognition system works fairly well and opens the lock quickly. You can add multiple fingerprints, so both you and your partner can access the drawer or cabinet.
In case of a problem with the system, use the included decoder to delete all fingerprints and put in new ones.
Issues & Limitations
Setting up the CODACE lock is a bit of a challenge because it doesn't come with instructions. The only place to get setup instructions is on the product’s Amazon page.
The Antarctic Star 1.6cu.ft beverage refrigerator is the perfect capacity for two people who need to quench their thirst.
It holds beer, water, soda, wine and whatever other beverage you want to chill.
PROS
- Compact size - takes up little room in the bedroom
- Glass door and soft interior blue lighting
- Reversible door
- Powerful and reliable compressor cooling
CONS
- Temperature control is not precise.
Our Review
The Antarctic Star beverage refrigerator runs on a compressor, similar to a kitchen refrigerator.
That means it provides powerful and reliable cooling performance compared to thermoelectric beverage coolers and cooler boxes.
Whatever you put inside gets cold quickly and stays cold. There’s a dial to adjust the cooling level.
The Antarctic Star refrigerator holds both bottles and cans. You can remove and adjust the racks to organize the interior to your needs.
The compressor is quiet; it won’t bother you as you sleep.
The cooler has a soft blue interior light, so you can easily fetch a drink even in the dark. The light also works great as an ambient light for your bedroom, but you can turn it off.
Issues & Limitations
The manufacturer says the Antarctic Star refrigerator has a temperature range between 40-61F, but there’s no way to set a precise temperature.
The dial only lets you set a cooling level. You have to experiment to find the right cooling level for your drinks.
If you are storing something like wine that needs precise temperature control, we recommend getting a fridge thermometer to help you set the right temperature.
The Avana Sleek chaise lounge is a great accompaniment to a Liberator sex positioning pillow. It gives you more options beyond your bed.
And when you are not enjoying intimacy, the chaise is also a great lounger to relax on.
PROS
- Allows more sex positions
- Supportive high density poly foam construction
- Removable and washable soft cover
- Versatile
CONS
- The cover is not moisture resistant
Our Review
A sex chaise is great if you get bored of the bed or just want to explore more positions. The Avana chaise has gentle contours that support your body in different positions.
It’s made with high-density Certipur-US certified poly foam that can easily support the weight of two people.
The outer cover is soft against the skin. It’s also removable and machine washable.
The Avana chaise is not just ideal for sex. It’s also great as a lounger for relaxing, reading and yoga.
Issues & Limitations
The only limitation of the Avana chaise is that it’s not moisture proof or even moisture resistant. So any fluids will soak through to the foam underneath.
If you are worried about moisture damage to the foam, drape a waterproof blanket over the chair.
Bedroom Products For People Who Have A Lot Of Sex: FAQs
What do you put on your bed when having sex?
Place a waterproof blanket on your bed when having sex. It protects your bedding from fluids and stains. It also saves you the trouble of changing the sheets afterwards.
What is a sex pillow used for?
A sex pillow lets you try new sex positions and achieve greater satisfaction. Sex pillows come in unique shapes to support your body in different positions.
How to prevent a wet patch on the bed when having sex
To avoid the uncomfortable wet patch after sex, put a waterproof blanket on the bed when having sex. It’ll keep any fluids from going through to the bedding.
You can also use a waterproof mattress protector, though it will only protect the mattress from getting wet.
The best strategy is to use a mattress protector along with a waterproof blanket.
How do I make my bedroom sexier?
Lighting and scent are two of the best ways to improve your bedroom’s ambience. Get dimmable lights that you can turn down to create a nice ambience.
For scent, essential oils are perfect. They smell nice and are safe. Use an ultrasonic essential oil diffuser to disperse the scent over several hours.
Other things you can do include getting high quality bedding, removing clutter from your nightstand, and adding a piece or two of sensual artwork.
How do you have sex when it’s cold?
You can turn up the AC or buy a room air conditioner with heating. Another option is a room heater.
But the most efficient way to stay warm when having sex is using a bed cooling and heating system like ChiliSleep.
Which is the best sex furniture for the bedroom?
One of the best sex furniture for your bedroom is a sex chaise. It lets you try out more positions, and it’s also great for just relaxing.
You can also try a sex bench, a sex chair, or a sex swing.
How do I make my mattress more comfortable for sex?
If your mattress is too soft, get a firmer mattress or mattress topper. If you want a bouncier bed, get a latex or hybrid mattress or mattress topper.
If your mattress traps a lot of heat, get a cooling pad or a bed cooling system.
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